1. Fall in love.
Hopelessly, devoted; physically and emotionally in love. Doesn’t have to be the hunk you’ve been crushing on for ages. I dare you to fall in love with a book or a poem. One you can read and reread over and over again.
2. Have a GNO (or in) with you Mom.
Whether its going out to your favorite bar/restaurant or just fixing hot dogs in spaghetti and streaming the latest Fringe episodes of Netflix. Don’t forget the Kinky coolers.
3. Choose an Idol to Admire and Steal Fashion advice from.
I personally portray my look and style from Avril Lavigne and Zooey Deschanel.
Not only are these women beautiful but they’re also spunky and unique.
4. Get a Job (if you haven’t already).
It may not be the one you dream of, but the experience will be worth it.
I once worked at a local grocery store where I found inspiration for many future poems and short stories.
in a favorite food. Mine is ice cream. Forget the calories and the percentage of sugars and fat.
in a Netflix show. Mine is Beauty and the Beast.
in a love for creativity. Mine is writing, poetry, and a little cross-stitching here and there.
6. Prom Season
When prom season is all the rage (LIKE NOW), go to outlet malls and try on every single one you think you’d look exceptionally stunning in. Practice the catwalk you know you’d nail in a heartbeat.
7. Crush Hard.
Always have a crush in mind. I tend to flip-flop between actors and guys I meet in real life.
Right now, I’m at a crossroads between Smallville‘s Tom Welling, Arrow‘s Stephen Amell; and an overnight manager I used to work with by the name of Kenny.
8. Treat yourself.
to a shoot range in town if you have one. My boyfriend, Greg, took me out to the Bullet Hole in La Vista where I learned how to shoot a .9mm caliber. It’s pretty amazeballz and you’ll look hot a self-protective.
9. Plan a Get-Together.
with all your close-knit gal pals at least once a month. Go out for drinks, dancing, or hit up each other’s place once in a while and stream Netflix whilst giggling about the latest gossip that trends your every day lives.
10. Travel. Get on a plane or take a tram around your state
and get a feel for your surroundings. I live in rural Omaha. Do you know how big this city is? Probably not New York or Los Angeles big, but pretty damn near close if you ask me. I could most likely get away with staying inside the city limits of Omaha and still be able to travel a great distance to see sights I’ve yet to feat my eyes on.
11. Try having more “adult” relationships with the opposite sex.
Stay with me on this one. I learned the experimental way that just because you and your opposite sex friend/partner are compatible on a friendly level DOES NOT mean you are guaranteed to be as compatible between the sheets; and vise versa. My advice is to keep your heart at bay and explore a more natural approach to a sexual relationship. One big rule to keep in mind. SEX does notequal love; nor love for sex. Exploring a friends with benefits relationship is not unhealthy in my opinion. In fact, it taught me that sex is primal.
12. Start keeping in contact with your parents and grandparents.
I apologize to those who have lost their loved ones at this time. For those of us whose parents/grandparents are still around, I urge you to make an effort to be as close as you can be. Only family members can tell you stories of your heritage(and no, it is NOT the same as finding out the facts on some website you pay money towards). My grandparents lived their young lives in the 40s and 50s. Back when life was far different; they felt safe leaving their houses unlocked and neighborhoods were far more friendly than today.
13. Trust your instincts.
The key to survival in the crazy adult world is to believe and trust in yourself always and forever. Any doubt can cause irreparable amounts of damage that just cannot be repaired properly. Only your opinion should matter when making decisions that only affect your life. Now, once it starts affecting loved ones, their opinions count too. Parents’ opinions count always based on your present standing relationship with them at that time. Never be afraid to speak your mind and trust your heart to be true to your soul.
14. Learn to decipher who your loved ones are.
I have learned that certain family members will always be strangers to you and you can’t do anything about it. There are also those who are friends first, then over time become a regular member of the family. Family is anyone be it blood or circumstance; who never leave and can be trusted and dependable. Simply anyone who is real with you always is one worth adding to the family list.
Whether its a college course, a huge midterm, or even simply making a late payment on that car that just broke down on you. Life is hard; and it never gets too easy. Failure helps us learn from our mistakes and teaches us that right and wrong is not all black and white. I believe failure keeps us from becoming too robotic and down a straight and narrow path as opposed to remaining human and being capable of constantly seeing that there are two sides to everything and three sides to every story, truth, and myth.
Amanda B Hansen